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Mother’s Day

I woke up on Mother’s Day without any solid plans. I had left it till the day before to invite my mom out, and she had already made plans to get together with friends. And I hadn’t heard anything yet from my son.

So I went for a run and then had a shower and then, in a rare spontaneous burst of femininity, I got dressed up in a short summery skirt and top and even put on some jewelry. I’m funny about dressing up. I find it stressful to *have* to get dressed up, but sometimes I just suddenly feel like it for no good reason, and then I really like it.

After that, I just went about my day, doing a little housework, drinking coffee, reading, playing scrabble and scramble, stuff like that. And I waited for my son to call. Maybe he’d forgotten it was Mothers Day. Maybe I should go to his place and hammer on his door and say “Hey, it’s mother’s day, let’s go do something!”

I had a nice philosophical chat with myself about Hallmark holidays and things you should and should not do to yourself and/or your children.

I was also thinking about perspective, because a friend of mine’s mom died unexpectedly the day before mother’s day, and another friend recently lost her mother-in-law. I reminded myself that being a mother and having a mother are much more important than having a day about being a mother or having a mother.

I agreed with myself 100%, but I still hoped James would call.

And of course he did! He invited me out for patio beers at Daniel O’Connell’s, which was perfect because it was perfect patio weather and I love the musicians who jam there on Sunday afternoons.

JamesSo off I went, and we drank beers and ate a club sandwich and talked and listend to music and it was a Most Excellent Afternoon on the patio with my son. In addition to loving him more than anything, I really like my son. His father and I, when we get together, still marvel at how we hit the genetic jackpot with James, and how he is the unique and unlikely combination of the very best of both of us.

Justin, the Somerset Street photographerSomething interesting happened too. It’s funny how something interesting always happens, isn’t it? We’re sitting drinking beers on the patio, and some guy drives up and locks his bike to the fence right beside me. Six inches from me. Tied to the back of his bike is a package of chicken breasts.

“But what about your chicken?” I asked him, “Do you think it’s safe?”

“I thought about that,” he replied, “but you don’t look like a fox to me.”

Then he changed his mind and said maybe I did look like a fox, and I thanked him for the compliment and we both laughed.

He left that chicken there for an hour or so, just sitting out in the sun, while he drank beer wine. I was reminded of Janet’s beef.

Justin and the chicken“You’re not worried about the chicken going bad?” I asked when he returned to his bike.

“Nope,” he replied cheerfully, “My mama always said you’ve got to eat a peck of dirt.”

(There was more to that, but I’d had a couple of beers by then, and I can’t remember the rest…sorry.)

“You know,” I said, “I have no choice but to blog your chicken.”

Then he pulled out a business card and gave it to me, so I could send him the link.

And you know who he turned out to be? Justin Wonnacott, the Somerset Street photographer! I’m not even kidding!

(He seems like a super-nice guy, but if you’re ever invited to his place for dinner, don’t say I didn’t warn you.)

Okay. Back to Mothers Day. I got tagged by MudMama for a mothering meme today. Basically I was asked to describe three things I’m good at in the mothering department.

I decided to ask my son, since he’s the expert on my mothering strengths and weaknesses. I sent him an email, described the assignment, and apologized if it sounded like I was fishing for compliments.

He sent the sweetest reply back. It put a huge goofy smile on my face and it made my day so I’m going to post it here. (Maybe it’s tacky to go fishing for compliments and then post them on your blog, but so what.)

Hey Mom,

I think you’re good at pretty much everything as a parent… it’d be a
lot easier to answer if you were good at some things and bad at others
:-P

You instilled some good morals in me, I was well loved, well fed,
disciplined, had pets and toys, etc… Plus you’re smart and down to
earth, so I know I can always go to you for good advice.

You’re basically the perfect parent, nobody could ask for better :)

Love ya lots,
James

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Are You Normal?

I was out scrounging the thrift shops a couple days ago, looking for long-lost Group of Seven paintings or, failing that, just something interesting to hang on the wall. I did find an oil painting at Value Village that I might have paid $10 for, but they wanted $29.99. That seemed like a lot, considering it’s Value Village and all. (But apparently I’m not the only one who has noticed the recent price jacking at Value Village.)

While I was in St. Vincent de Paul’s (which, by the way, didn’t have any paintings), I perused the books and ended up buying one called Are You Normal? It’s got all these human interest statistics in it. It’s not rigorous scientific research or anything - it’s mostly based on self-reported behaviour, which you have to take with a grain of salt - but it’s still kind of interesting.

For example: Do you peek in your host’s bathroom cabinet? Apparently 39% of people say they can’t resist, and of those 39%, 77% are disappointed because there’s nothing very interesting in there. (However, 23% claim their snooping was rewarded with the discovery of things like dead rodents, toupees, glass eyes and guns.)

Equally interesting is that 38% of hosts actually go to the trouble of moving personal items from their bathroom cabinets when they’re expecting guests.

(I strongly suspect that the hosts who hide things are also the guests who snoop.)

Here are some more:

7% of people have flossed their teeth with their hair.

48% of dog-owners let their dogs sleep on the bed.

45% of pet-owners don’t mind if their pets watch them having sex.

29% of us have deliberately shoplifted something from a store.

3% of us change our bedsheets every day.

We swear, on average, 16 times a day.

1 of every 7 Americans carries a knife or gun. (That doesn’t count the weapons they keep under their pillows.)

5% of Americans rate themselves as beautiful or handsome.

One out of five women would like to have a penis of her own.

No place for the camera-shy

I stumbled upon the Tulip Festival at Dow’s Lake today after brunching with the blogger formerly known as The Urban Pedestrian and currently known as XUP.

The Tulip Festival, it seems, is mostly about photographing your loved ones nestled against a background of vibrant tulips. Just about everybody was either taking a picture or having their picture taken. There were even special little photography stations, marked by camera pictograms.

Here are just a few of the many thousands of people who posed for photographs at the Tulip Festival today. (It feels a bit weird walking up to a stranger and taking their picture when they’re posing for a picture for someone else.)

Colourful woman

Man in Turban

Moms & strollers

Here’s a tulip painter. Lots of us were standing around taking his picture too.

Tulip Painter

It seems XUP is a bit of a rebel when it comes to pictogram prohibitions. Here she is, stomping tulips with her sensible shoes.

Rebel Urban Pedestrian

(Don’t worry. No actual tulips were harmed in the making of this blog post.)

Anyway. XUP and I had some good food and interesting conversations. We talked about things that used to be considered socially unacceptable but no longer are, things that will be considered socially unacceptable in the future, the revolutionary new dating paradigm, sustainability, excess, fake meat, vegetarianism, single parenting, the health care system, real estate, Value Village, the looming suburban crisis, cats, work, cancer, people who can’t smell, people who can’t feel pain, the increasing prevalence of autoimmune disorders, shoes, chicken pox, smoking lounges, and much much more.

My mini-vacation

My mini-vacation took me to Kitchener, Orangeville, Woodstock, Cambridge, Guelph, Elora, Freelton, St. Jacobs and Fergus, where I visited some old friends and family and made some new friends, including Quinn and Branden.

Quinn:
Quinn

Branden:
Branden

I did lots of scrounging in antique malls and flea markets and nostalgia shows. Knowing that I had to carry any purchases home on the train, I exercised restraint and mostly just looked. But I did buy two paintings:

I got this one at the Beaver antique mall. It’s an old Mennonite oil painting by J. Martin.

Mennonite painting by J. Martin

And I got this one at the Aberfoyle flea market. It’s an oil by Mary Herisay.

Oil painting, by Mary Herisay, Montreal

I’m thinking I should maybe collect old paintings instead of new paintings. They’re a lot more affordable.

I also got a couple of cameras for my camera collection, including this Flexaret TLR.

Flexaret camera

This is my friend Henry’s house. Everywhere you look, there’s something interesting to look at or play with. It’s like a hands-on museum.

The music room

Antique coloured bellows cameras

Here are some fly fishermen on the Grand River, which is the third best fly-fishing river in Canada. Maybe North America. Maybe even the world. That’s what Henry says anyway, and he was Angler of the Year in 2006, so he should know.

Anglers on the Grand River

The trip got off to a bit of a rocky start because when I got to the bus stop I realized I’d forgotten my camera. I don’t go anywhere without my camera, so I don’t know how that happened. Anyway, I figured if I really boogied I could get home and back before the bus came.

But then, while I was rushing home, I saw an old man sitting on his lawn waving at me. I waved back. He called out and asked me if I could help him. It turned out he wasn’t just sitting on his lawn (and why would he be, since it was cold and windy and he didn’t have a chair). He had fallen down and couldn’t get up. So I crossed the street and set him back on his feet. He thanked me and continued mowing his lawn and I continued hurrying home to get my camera.

Unfortunately I missed the bus. But I always leave myself a little elbow room in the schedule, so I wasn’t too worried at first. I started to worry when the next #14 was 15 minutes late. There went my elbow room. Then I had to transfer to the 102.

I asked the driver if he could get me to the train station on time.

“Probably,” he said cheerfully.

So I sat down and next thing I knew, the 102 was jammed full of afternoon commuters and it was taking forever at every stop because the back door was broken and everybody had to shove their way through the crowded bus to the front door. I was getting nervous.

And THEN, as if the gods were conspiring to keep me in Ottawa, the bus driver pulled the bus over at Hurdman Station and said he was sorry but he had to shut the bus down for repairs and everybody had to get off.

There was no elbow room left in my schedule. I was down to the wire now. I grabbed my stuff and ran to the nearest bus and asked him if he went to the train station.

“The train station,” he replied in a flat monotone.

“Yes,” I said, “Do you go there?”

“Go there,” he said.

“Do you?” I asked.

“Do you,” he replied.

Another day I might have found it amusing, but on this particular day I didn’t have time for a profound lack of communication skills. Plus he was wearing mirrored glasses and looking out the window, so I couldn’t even read his expression.

I took a chance and jumped on. Luckily he went to the train station and it was the very next stop.

I ran in, and rushed over to one of those self-service kiosks. I’d bought my ticket online, and apparently all I had to do was scan my credit card and it would print my tickets. I scanned my credit card. It didn’t print my tickets. Instead it said it was having trouble reading my card. I ran to the second of the three self-service kiosks. Same thing. I ran to the last self-service kiosk. It clicked importantly and spit out my tickets.

The train was boarding. I made it!

(Oh. And on the way back, I took a taxi home. Three of the last four taxis I’ve taken have been from the train station to my house. In all three cases, the drivers spent the entire time on the phone. I don’t like that. Call me neurotic, but I want the driver to have both hands on the wheel and to be concentrating on driving. Two of those three drivers took a route that overshoots my house and then doubles back, which adds a couple of dollars to the fare. Last time the fare came to $21 and I gave him $30 and asked him to give me back $5. That’s a $4 tip - that’s reasonable, right? He then rummaged through his pockets, and said he only had $3 change so could he have an extra $2 tip? I just wanted to get inside, so I dropped it. But you know what? It still pisses me off that I got manipulated into giving him a $6 tip.)

Okay, this post is kind of rambly and ranty and all over the place, which isn’t what I intended at all. I should clean it up before I post it. But you know what? My living room needs a cleanup even more than this post does, so I’m going to do that instead.

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Duncan’s meow

Duncan missed me. You know I love him, but ever since I got back he has been annoying as hell. I don’t mind when a cat meows, but Duncan’s been whining. A lot.

Check out this video. It’s Duncan whining in a whiny little voice. Whoever heard of a twenty pound cat with a squeaky little whine? He’s never had a really robust meow, but his voice changed over the last week and it’s kind of pathetic now. If I had a meow like that, I think I’d stick to purring.


Last night he was desperate for bedtime, and then when we went to bed he was like a mosquito in a tent. He whined and clung to me. He lay on my face. Not the nice way, when he sleeps with his face on my face, but the annoying way when he lays his whole 20 pound body on my face. I pushed him off. Then he wanted to knead my neck with his sharp pointy claws. Somebody really ought to trim those things, they’re getting dangerous. I covered my neck with blankets to protect it. He stuck his paws in my mouth and licked my eye sockets.

I turned over with my back towards him. He followed me. I flipped on my stomach and buried my face in my arms. He bit my head and shoved his nose in my ear. When I pulled away again, he raked the ear with his not-fully-retracted claws. I pulled the blankets over my head and under my body. He repeatedly rammed my head with his head. Then he used his paws to poke along the perimeter, looking for a weakness in my fortress. Next thing I knew, he had muscled his way in and he was all claws and tongue and drooling weirdness.

Eventually we went to sleep, but he made a point of waking me up approximately hourly throughout the night.

I don’t think he liked being left alone. Emilie and Jacob the Scary Baby dropped by every day to feed him and scoop litter and give him a little cuddle, but they didn’t sleep with him. As we know, Duncan is a cat who lives for his bedtime cuddles; he gets a little psychotic without them.

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Home sweet home

When I got home I had several messages from people who were concerned because I hadn’t blogged or played scrabble on facebook for four days. It’s kind of reassuring, since I live alone, to know that when my time comes, my absence might be noticed before the smell draws the attention of the public health department.

Hopefully that’ll be many years down the road because I still have hundreds of things to do before I die, including writing a book, creating a frame-worthy piece of art, learning ventriloquism, and much much more.

Anyway, to those who were concerned, thank you - I’m alive! I was just off on a little mini-holiday. I rode the train and visited people and bought paintings and everything. It was excellent. Regularly scheduled blogging will return tomorrow, because right now there’s a cat who is being a bit of a bully, and I’m a little bit intoxicated from the train.

Jane’s Walk

You know what I would be doing this weekend if I were in Ottawa, which I’m not?

Jane’s Walk is a coordinated series of free neighbourhood walking tours given by locals who care passionately about where they live, work and play. Jane’s Walk is a pedestrian-focused event that improves urban literacy by offering insights into local history, planning, design, and civic engagement through the simple act of walking and observing.

Jane’s Walk was held last year in Toronto and New York City. In 2008, there are plans to expand to seven more Canadian cities: Calgary, Charlottetown, Guelph, Halifax, Ottawa, Vancouver and Winnipeg.

“No one can find out what will work for our cities by looking at garden suburbs, manipulating scale models, or inventing dream cities.
You’ve got to get out and walk.”

— Jane Jacobs, “Downtown is for People”, The Exploding Metropolis, 1957.

Jane’s Walk: Schedule and details

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Duncan’s secret

Duncan has a deep, dark secret - one he managed, until now, to hide from me and the world in general. But last night his secret leapt out of the shadows and into the light and - if you like mixed metaphors - the cat was out of the bag.

I’ll give you a hint: Duncan’s not such a big brave lion. He’s afraid of something.

He’s feeling a little sheepish about it this morning, now that his secret has been exposed. I’ve tried to reassure him that everybody’s scared of something. I, for example, am afraid of bulls and public speaking. My son, as a toddler, was afraid of hair in the bathtub. I know someone who gets hysterical if a butterfly flutters by.

I’ve known cats who were afraid of carrying cages, vets, rides in the car, dogs, loud noises, screaming children and wet grass.

But Duncan’s the first cat I’ve ever met who is afraid of human babies.

Last night Emilie and Jacob dropped by. Jacob’s nine weeks old and he is very sweet and quiet. Emilie put his little recliner chair down on the floor and Jacob just sat there quietly looking around. He did not look in the least little bit intimidating.

But Duncan’s eyes were big as saucers and he was freaked. He could not take his eyes off Jacob, and not in the good way that I can’t take my eyes off Jacob.

It was a bit alarming, actually, because at first I couldn’t tell whether he was afraid of Jacob or feeling aggressive towards him. It’s hard for me to imagine Duncan being aggressive, but they told me at the Humane Society that he is aggressive towards other cats. Maybe he was thinking Jacob was half-cat/half-human, since he is roughly cat-sized with a human face.

At any rate, I didn’t like the way he was looking at Jacob, or the way his tail was twitching. Jacob, however, didn’t pick up on any weird vibes, and just fell into a peaceful sleep.

Duncan preferred the baby asleep, but still couldn’t take his freaked-out saucer eyes off him. Eventually he crept closer and closer to the baby and then, very tentatively, started to sniff him. He was in that hyper-vigilant pose, ready to flee at the first sign of sound or movement. He sniffed the baby all over, and he sniffed the chair and the blanket.

After he had thoroughly smelled the baby, he retreated and laid down about six feet away.

He still kept an eye on the baby, but he didn’t seem as weird after that. When they left, he watched through the window as Emilie pushed the baby carriage down the street, and he didn’t stop watching until they disappeared from sight.

I wish I’d gotten a picture, but I was in hyper-vigilant mode too, poised to intervene if necessary. Instead, here’s a picture of him in his harness in the back yard, wondering if he can flatten himself enough to squeeze under the gate.

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Ugly food

Meatless Meat Does anybody understand the point of meatless meat? Who is the target consumer? I’m a carnivore, and I don’t want to eat it. I don’t think it would appeal to vegetarians either. So who is it for? People who have given up meat for Lent? People whose spouses are forcing them to be vegetarians against their will? Who??

Ugly foodHere’s a marketing tip. If you have a restaurant which serves ugly food, do not take a harshly lit photograph of the ugly food, enlarge it, turn it into a giant poster and hang it in the window of your restaurant. Please.

And don’t be fooled into thinking that getting all artsy-crafty with your ugly food will make it look more appealing. It won’t.
Artsy crafty ugly food

Seagull eating vomit Speaking of ugly food, I think this seagull was auditioning for Fear Factor when he ate the human vomit off Preston Street.

 

 

 

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A lumpy day

Today was a lump-in-my-throat emotional kind of day. It got off to a lumpy start, and then the lump just stayed pretty close to the surface for the rest of the day.

On my walk to work, I came across a dead duck on Prince of Wales Drive. Roadkill. It was very sad. And pointless too, because he had wings and he could easily have flown across the road. He didn’t need to waddle through traffic.

And then, if that wasn’t sad enough, I spotted his widow keeping vigil on the other side of the road, just sitting in the grass looking lost and shocked.

I’ve seen this pair before - they always hang out in the same vicinity - and they looked much happier when they were both alive.

Mallards are one of those species that mate for life, which makes it infinitely more heartbreaking.

I crossed the road to see if she was okay, and she didn’t even budge until I got about two feet from her. Then she moved a few feet away. Poor thing. It was so sad. I wanted to do something to help, but what could I do? The only thing I could think of was to bring his body over to her, so she could get some closure.

But that just seemed weird. And it did occur to me that I was projecting human feelings onto the duck, and who knows what ducks really think and feel? But they must feel something if they mate for life, don’t you think? Do you think they grieve?

I didn’t do anything because I couldn’t think of anything helpful to do. I just told her I was sorry. I had a big aching lump in my throat.

A few minutes later I was crossing through a park to Carling Avenue, and the lump was starting to recede. That’s when I saw the dead frog in the middle of the path. It wasn’t as sad as the mallards, but it was sad enough to make the lump swell up again.

LCBO Swap BoxI felt a little better on the path beside the train tracks because I saw a bunny and it was alive. And then I cheered up some more when I got downtown and saw the new Swap Box where the Mayor Larry Swap Box used to be - thank you Elmaks. I left a Tarot card in the swap box and continued on to the gym.

Afterwards I went to a meeting and the lump came back and I was sitting there wondering why I was feeling so emotional about this meeting and was anybody else feeling the same way or was it just me?

After the meeting one of my friends stopped by my cubicle and asked “What did you think of that meeting?” and I tried to say something but the lump got in the way and then I was trying really hard to fight back the tears. (I wasn’t successful.) (I hardly ever cry at work.) (I wonder why it’s easier to listen without crying than it is to talk without crying?)

I walked home after work and looked for the ducks, but both of them were gone. I wonder where she went. I still wonder what she’s thinking and feeling.

GroundhogsNear where the ducks had been, I saw my first two groundhogs of the year. I love groundhogs.

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